Q: I am here in New York visiting from Belgium for six weeks, and I didn’t think to bring my tuxedo. But now I have been invited to a black-tie wedding that’s in four weeks. I don’t want to spend $150 to rent a tuxedo for the evening. I prefer to wear my own clothes anyway. Can I wear my black suit to the wedding instead? I am taking a date with me, and she will be in a gown.
—G.M., New York City
Jason Schneider
A: Formal dressing has become a lot more varied in recent years. Unless you’re headed to the White House or to a very dressy gala, you can play with the classic black-tie uniform a bit. Stylish, confident men already are opting for creative forms of black tie, including tuxedos worn with a long tie or an open collar; the latter look could include a silk scarf tossed around the neck or even a jaunty silk mum as a boutonnière.
I trust that your black suit has a modern cut and isn’t well worn. Take it out for a professional steaming before you go out. Pair it with a dressy black or pastel satin tie and freshly polished black dress shoes.
The pivotal element of your formal ensemble is a heavy white piqué shirt that fits well. (If you’re having trouble finding one at the right price, you can look online.) You’ll be glad you made the effort.
That said, rehearse your faux black-tie look by trying it on before the party to make sure it is up to muster. If it isn’t, bite the bullet and rent a tux. You’ll feel far more secure all evening if you’re appropriately dressed.
Lesson learned: When you’re packing for an extended stay, be ready for an impromptu party with a dressy black suit and the trimmings. Savvy female executives who travel a lot know to include a cocktail dress and satin clutch just in case.